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How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?

10.06.2025 01:31

How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?

By giving up the notion that someone has to “win” or that anyone loses by saying “you are right”, “I am sorry”, or “I can do better.”

By internalizing that responding with kindness is strength, not weakness.

By resolving to listen with curiosity rather than defensiveness.

Were the 1980s as uptight and prudish as movies and TV shows make them out to be? When I think of 80s culture, I think about a very "icky" judgmental yuppie status quo time period.

By deciding to stop with the criticism and the nagging and instead say thank you for everything you do for me. Thank you for loving me.

By learning to validate what the other is feeling. “I can absolutely see why you feel this way.”

By taking turns talking.

What is the most sentimental item you inherited from someone dear to you and what does it mean to you?

By wanting to truly understand each other, despite feeling unheard.

By keeping in mind it’s OK to have different opinions and different experiences, and they both matter in equal measure.